It’s a newer phenomenon: Stepchildren are trying to care for people who are not their original father or mother, and sometimes the situation can become tense or nasty. This is what Emma faces.
After Emma’s father died, her mother remarried a man named Edward. Edward’s three daughters were never close with Emma and her four siblings. More than 30 years later, the tension continues, especially due to the consequences of her mother’s death in 2006. Emma’s family assumed Edward would pass first, because he was nine years older than Emma’s mother, but it did not happen that way.
“When she passed, Edward was devastated. We took care of him. We had holidays with him and all my nieces and nephews call him grandpa. He is the only grandpa they’ve ever known,” Emma said.
Emma, her siblings, and Edward live in Massachusetts, where he receives elder care in an assisted living community. Problems began when he decided to move there and sell the house that had been in Emma’s family for 80 years.
“We did not handle the situation very well. The morning of the move, one of my brothers and I cleared out many things we thought didn’t matter to Edward. However, when More >
Winter weather is approaching quickly, so you need to go through your elderly loved one’s home and make sure it’s ready for colder temperatures. It is a good idea to help them with this checklist so they do not winterize their home on their own. Some of these activities can be strenuous and others could require them to go up on a ladder, which raises their risk for a fall.
1. Test the heating system. This may seem rudimentary, but many people don’t discover a problem until they switch the heat on for the first time. Waiting to find this problem can lead to a crisis. To avoid this situation, make sure you take a look at the condition of the heating filters and turn on the heating system to see if it is blowing warm air. Cleaning the furnace can also prevent accidental fires and it can lower energy costs. Check to see heating vents are closed in rooms that aren’t used to maximize the heat in areas of a home your loved one spends more time in.
2. Check heating ducts. After making sure the heating system works, it’s a good idea to make sure the heating ducts do not have any More >
This year the Center for Disease Control is recommending that everyone over the age of 6 months get a flu vaccination. You can get you flu shot at your doctor’s office, your local pharmacy, or the Mecklenburg County Health Department. Many groups also sponsor flu clinics. The flu vaccine can save lives. If you have a question about getting your flu shot, consult with your healthcare provider.