During a visit to her grandma’s house at Christmas two years ago, Cristina Deptula noticed a trail of ants roaming through the kitchen.
“There was trash that needed to be taken out and dirty laundry,” she recalled. “My mom and I offered to do the dishes and my grandma refused! She insisted that she didn’t need or want our help, that we didn’t have to do that, and she’d just get to it the next morning.” In reality, it took her grandma several days to load the dishes into the dishwasher. Deptula lived close enough to help her grandmother with regular grocery shopping, but when it came to housework, the response was always a polite, “No thanks,” or “I’ll get to it later.” “One thing to realize with older relatives is that they won’t necessarily ask for your help or even accept offers of it,” Deptula said. “You might need to visit them more than once, check in with them, say over New Year’s, to see if they actually did get to those dishes or piles of clothes.” Deptula’s grandma became a widow less than five years earlier and she was determined to live independently. “She couldn’t understand why we wanted More >
They are scary and keep creeping back. You try to push them down, but they resurface. Do I have a false sense of security regarding my parents’ well-being? They are managing at home alone, right? How can I trust a caregiver I hire to take care of Mom? How can I trust this stranger who will suddenly be coming into her home and into all of our lives?
These questions are natural any time a family considers hiring an in-home caregiver. This is a brand new person in your life who is suddenly responsible for taking care of your loved one. It’s natural to be nervous, but there are steps you can take ahead of time to give you the peace of mind you need. Homewatch CareGivers has a list of 10 questions we feel any person should ask a prospective senior home care provider. We provide these questions not because we want you to choose Homewatch CareGivers as your in-home care solution, but we know it’s important to have these answers before you make a decision. Here are the 10 questions at a glance: 1. How long has the agency been providing private duty home care? 2. Is a written, customized care More >
As a provider of Elderly Care in Cornelius, here is a thought for this holiday season. Be kind.
Be kind to yourself first. You can’t be all things or do all things or please all people or spend unlimited monies. So be kind to yourself. Be realistic. Say “no” when you need to. Do some things that will nourish your own spirit. You deserve it. And you need it to stay healthy yourself.
Be kind to those close to you — your family and friends. Your kindness and the sharing of yourself with loved ones will mean more in the end than the mall gifts you buy. In the rush of buying, decorating, cooking, we can forget that what our loved ones want most is for us to be with them in love and kindness. It is our “presence” more than our “presents” that our loved ones cherish.
Then, be kind to a stranger this season. In doing so, you will come as close as you can get to the real spirit of this season.
Here’s a simple thought to keep in mind during these wonderful, joyous, exhausting and exasperating holiday weeks. Above all else, be kind.